My X-daughter-in-law's family has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. For 13 years, my son and us, as parents tried to help this woman. It came to a point that my son could not handle the situations anymore. She would not get any medical help, and she was being abusive with the children. She had slammed her 5-6 year old daughter into a dresser and the wall. She choked this child a couple of years later. She had her on the floor kicking her. She LEFT her in the changing room of a large department store, because "the child was talking to her in a way she didn't like". She locked the child in a dark dirty scary basement in an OLD farmhouse that had rats and who knows what else in the basement. My son had to let her out of the basement. He was "trying his best to hold a marriage together", but he didn't know what else to do. I took her to hospitals all over the area, because she is bulemic also. She says she is alcoholic, also. She can really put away the booze, I know that. She was beating the two girls, ages 10 and 7 ,at the time with large plastic spoons. My son told her to stop, she became involved in a shouting and poking situation with my son. She called the cops, and alledged spousal abuse. She has a great history of lying and is very good at it. She had tried suicide when she was a teen-ager. Her father sent her to counseling. She said she learned how to manipulate the psychiatrists a long time ago, and was not worried about any of them around here. Well, she put my son in jail for abuse. He ended up divorcing her. She is VERY angry. She said she was just teaching him a lesson, and she didn't really want a divorce. She made a lot of claims in the divorce and they believed her as to the abuse, even when we know she had someone else make bruises on her before going in to the police station the NEXT morning for pictures. She has totally destroyed the childrens self-esteem. She has been physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive to them. She used a stun gun on the now 10 year old daughter, and it was turned in to Human Services. By the time a meeting was set up, she had threatened the children into lying about the incident. NOW, Human Services won't do anything, because they think my grandchildren are liars. She is completely paranoic, by using an attached recording device on the phone at all times. Me and my son were very distraught with her last week. He just bought a house and the real estate company said they needed her signature on a piece of paper, stating that my son was not behind in child support. SHE stated he WAS behind and would NOT sign the paper. Child Support Recovery Unit was contacted and said that my son was paid AHEAD. My son's attorney had to get in touch with them and tell them to waive the signature on the part of the X-wife, because she was trying to use that as a bargaining tool against my son in an upcoming court date. She has kept my son's children away from him MANY, MANY times and will not go by the court divorce decree. She has stolen them from him on occasion and would not give them back, when it was his time throughout the summer, that he has custody. The law won't do anything. She already has this grandiose feeling that she can do "anything" she wants to and not get into trouble. She even tried to run down my son with her van in the parking lot at WalMart. He didn't prosecute, but used that as a way to get child support lowered. So, she thinks she got away with almost murder. The oldest child, who is 13 at this time, wants to live with her father, but she is so afraid of her mother, she won't state it to anyone in authority. We don't know how to help HER. She has been beaten so severely, mentally, psychologically and physically, she has NO self-esteem. We found a paper she had written and it had hints of suicide in it, for her to get out of her misery. No one will help us. This mother is such a GOOD liar, and looks so tiny and petite, and sick that everyone feels sorry for her. They don't know that it is bulemia, drugs and her own way to get sympathy. She goes in cycles of being REALLY mean, to being just nasty. We, as grandparents, are not allowed to call the grandchildren at her house and talk to them. She uses the children as tools of bargaining or hurting other people. I am sorry this is so long, it just took over 15 years to have all this happen, that I could not explain it in a few sentences. There is a LOT more, believe you me. SHE needs to be put in a hospital, but SHE does not believe there is a thing wrong with her. It is everyone ELSE who is out to get HER, in her opinion. What would you do in this kind of situation? We ALL need help, ESPECIALLY the children. I can't stand to think of my grandchildren having to live in this situation...........Attorneys don't come cheap!!!!
|
