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Answer by momwhoadopted
Submitted on 7/21/2004
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I just read all of these questions about adoption and it seem that most of these young girls are living in a big dream world! Talking about babies and adoption like it is getting a new puppy or kitten when most of them are not even old enough to work and take care of them selves let alone be a GOOD parent to another person! Get with it girls! Price diapers, food, apt. rent, phone, cars, gas, clothing, formula-all of the things it takes to live day to day (ask an ADULT to help if you can't do it on your own) then figure out what kind of job you could get at what price and how many hours a day you would have to work to support yourself and a child. REALITY BITES! Please think about these babies as human beings not play things! Adoption---- Grown up people adopt not children adopting children. The process is long and very expensive and goes through the court system. This way the grown ups who are hoping to adopt the child are checked out to make sure that they are stable and can afford the baby. P.S. The real heroes here are the young teen unmarried mothers who have enough love and common sense to find grown up people to adopt the babies that they themselves were to young to raise in the first place. Sound like a lecture? It is because this is not a fun and games issue to take lightly.

Answer by mandy
Submitted on 4/30/2005
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good one. i am 22 and i have a little girl and when i was a little girl i wanted to adopt kids so much so that they would have someone to love. but now being an adult i relized that kids arent that easy and i wish i would of waited til i was 30. they are very hard to care for. you always got to do this and that. i dont believe in smacking kids at all but i do like the corner some times. but my child is a brat. so you young girls i promise you do not want this at all. live your life as a child and get an education and a great job then start thinking of having children. think of it this away think of a kid that dont mind you at all and you dont hate them but you can not stand them at all and take care off that kid for a week or two then see what you think

Answer by hayles
Submitted on 7/24/2005
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Thumbs up "momwhoadopted", you really hit the nail on the head. i am a mother of one, I fell pregnant at 21 and have spent 3 years caring for my son. Yes, it's wonderful to be loved but thats not what having a baby is about, it's not a way to satisfy your own selfish needs... think about it, can you really teach a baby all they need to grow up and become a decent human being? Can you stay up 5 nights out of 7 stroking the hair of a screaming baby whose temperature won't drop? Can you provide a safe, sufficient home for a child, along with everything else that comes along with that? Can you miss out on the prom, the nightclubs and the days shopping with your friends to be at home caring for a child? think long and hard before you become a parent... wait until you have travelled, learned, worked and have everything to offer a child that a child deserves... because a child deserves more than a child as a parent.

Answer by Laurie
Submitted on 12/18/2005
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Wow, what a thread. Afraid to have a baby, so wants to adopt one instead. That's very naive. Where infant adoption is concerned, my brother used to say "all unwed mothers should have their babies taken from them at birth to be given to infertile people." I thought it was really heartless and asked what if it's not good for a baby to be separated from her mother? What about the siblings of the baby?...and he said "It doesn't matter how a child will be affected." He was adamant that all families needed to be of the "family unit" type - or else the family members must be separated and the little ones "sold". Adoption is a business. Adoption attorneys and "professionals" work hard to ensure a steady supply of healthy infants for their customers. It's easy to take advantage of a scared single mother-to-be. They make the moms all kinds of promises and do their best to avoid the dads. They encourage a mother-to-be to "choose" adoption and even select prospective adopters before her baby is even born, so she will feel beholden to these seemingly friendly people. Later her child will have to listen to the jeers of other kids saying "Oh, yeah? You're adopted" which of course means "Your own mother didn't even want you." It's far less cruel to just help the real mom and dad (even if they are single or young or less affluent) and skip the adoption. If a baby has family, she doesn't need to be adopted. Mary the mother of Jesus was single, less affluent and a very young teenager. Yet her motherhood was honored by wise men bearing the finest gifts. In modern times, single mothers are not honored, but dishonored. They are given derogatory labels like "unwed" mothers or "birthmothers" and persuaded to "consider" adoption.

Answer by X-tina
Submitted on 1/14/2006
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Hey momwhoadopted, I am 14 and love babies but I totally agree with you. my mom was 17 when she had me and she says she would never take it back but it was tough, and she had a place to live and supporting parents, so I don't understand how these girls can have babies and possibly give them what they need, babies are not dolls and they need way too much attention for a teenager to be raising them. I say this but at the same time I look up to teen mothers because the ones that I know work as much as possible when not in school. Long story short I want to have a baby but it's worth waiting for because when I do have a child I want him/her to be a blessing not a hassle. Great advice Momwhoadopted

Answer by X-tina
Submitted on 1/14/2006
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Hey momwhoadopted, I am 14 and love babies but I totally agree with you. my mom was 17 when she had me and she says she would never take it back but it was tough, and she had a place to live and supporting parents, so I don't understand how these girls can have babies and possibly give them what they need, babies are not dolls and they need way too much attention for a teenager to be raising them. I say this but at the same time I look up to teen mothers because the ones that I know work as much as possible when not in school. Long story short I want to have a baby but it's worth waiting for because when I do have a child I want him/her to be a blessing not a hassle. Great advice Momwhoadopted

Answer by Kym
Submitted on 1/29/2006
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I am a 16 year old, and i live with my mum and step-dad. I really get on with him but hate my dad, i don't ever see him even though he only lives 10mins walk away! I tried my hardest to get on with my dad but we don't have a good track record, and i would rather forget the past i had with him.... He beat me and treated me very badly. My step-dad is the total opposite, i love him to pieces but i am not allowed to change my name to his bcoz im onli 16.....if he adopts me i can and i can be a proper part of his family....Does anyone know how i can do this? Who do i need to get in contact with to start the process? and do i need to get my real fathers permission? PLEASE HELP. any advise is much appreciated, contact me on h_j_k05@msn.com if u can help!! O and those 14yr old gurls that want to adopt children because you are too scared! DON'T!! Ur not ready for children if your scared of having them....and you will be chucking your childhood away! Just wait incase you change your mind!

Answer by Tiffany
Submitted on 4/2/2006
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I am looking to adopt my little sisters baby i was wondering what i need to do to do this process. I don't even now what to do first if someone knows what to do please email me and let me know. predawnzona19@hotmail.com My sister don't yet now what she wants to do yet keep the baby or give it up to me I dont fill she can take care of a baby she dosn't even have a stable boyfriend not only that the baby's father is in prision my sister is 18 and she dosnt even have a stable place to live she is currently living with our grandmother and she dosnt need that extra stress does any one know what i can tell my sister so that she understands that she can't and isn't able to tend to this child if so please email me at the email address above. I already have a 2 year old and i don't now if i can have any more children if i adopt my sisters baby that would be a wonderful dream come true i would adopt any ones child to bring them into my loving and caring home if some one is giving there child up for adoption then please email me also. Thanks not only that but all you young girls that want to adopt a child because your scared to have one of your own maybe that is because you can't take care of a baby please don't ruin your life like my sister grow up have a life and worry about having a baby later on in your life okay girls if you have any questions (this is for the younger girls who want babies please fill free to email me okay if you need someone to talk to) just don't ruin your lifes go out have fun use protection and don't worry about haveing a baby let alone adoping a baby that needs more then a young teenage mother that dosn't know what there doing it costs alot of time money and patents to be a parent not only that but you have to be over 21 to adopt so gr

Answer by mommy of two
Submitted on 4/25/2006
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sweet girls, I am 37 (sounds old to you but I'm not. :) I've been married for almost 5 years and have had two beautiful babies. But let me tell you something because I know how you feel. Wait. I wanted a baby when I was a teenager too.... But now I look at my 3 year old and one year old and I'm so glad I grew up before I had them. 20 is still so young. Listen, travel...go to school....have FUN!. Because once you have a baby,you can't give it back. I had a HARD time at first getting used to being a mommy. Your world shrinks. :) It's not just dressing up the baby and going out. It's being home alone while all of your friends go and have fun...go to a movie...go to the mall...and you have to stay home and feed the baby before it needs a nap. Even now, my husband ahs a GREAT job but we need a little more money to pay the bills. I went to college and now I can work for a few hours a week at a good job to help out. I don't have to take a job working for 8 dollars an hour. Figure this out for each month: -A house payment or rent: $900 or $500 -electric: 100 -gas for heat:100 -food for you and the baby: 400 (did you know that formula costs over $20 per WEEK? Did you know that diapers are about $18 per WEEK? Did you know that one jar of baby food is 60 cents and older babies need about 6 of these a day PLUS formula????) -a junky car: 3,000 -gas for the junky car: 200 -insurance for the junky car: $800 -license for the junky car: $50 -doctor bills: lots -telephone bills: 50 (with NO cell phone) free TV with 4 channels (you can't afford DISH) Okay, let's see...we're up to about $1,800 per MONTH and that DOESN"T INCLUDE the fun stuff that looks so cool when you see other people with babies.... stuff like clothes, strollers , car seats, shopping at the mall, going out to eat, going to the movies.... Iused to do all those things. Now I stay at home, get free videos from the library and shop at goodwill. BUT GUESS WHAT??? I don't mind because I WAITED and now I'm ready. I already shopped at the mall with my friends for hours.I have traveled around the world. I've eaten cookies at the mall. Now I can't afford any of those things but it's okay. But reality is like this...babies mean that you no longer have a life. Your life is theirs...%100. Are you ready for that? Your friends will say, "ohh..the baby is SOOOO cute. And then they'll take off shopping. You can't go. The baby needs a nap and you don't have any money anyway. Hmmmmmm... Dear girls....WAIT. Love you.

Answer by jvlkschr
Submitted on 4/29/2006
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Please somebody help me! I want my step-dad to adopt me. I don't want to be in my dad's name anymore. He is verbally abusive and always calls my mom and step-dad rude and offensive names. He criticizes my step-father as being a child molester, which is not a true statement. If he was that, he would not be anywhere near our house, and he would aways be in court or in jail. Plus, he was a police officer for many years until he switched jobs to get a better job that payed more. My dad is now convincing my brother that my step-father is a child molester and I can't handle it anymore. Are there printable adoption papers. My step-dad will adopt me, and my mom says it is okay... If you can help, please email, xoxo_trinny@hotmail.com

Answer by shontell
Submitted on 10/5/2006
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Hi this is shontell here and i have read all the questions that they have put down and its true its not a game or a thing you can just walk out on.i am 36weeks and belive me its hard to sort everything out you probably think its going to be easy when you have a baby but no you are thinking wrong. For me its very hard my partner wants to leave me and i dont have my own house to bring up my child when shes born and i have no job to buy what i want for my baby girl and everything else a mother wants for her baby. So if you do abopt a baby into your care just put your feet into mine for a second and you will relise,its not a toy or a cat or dog or its not a doll to play with every day its a real human been

Answer by Trixie
Submitted on 10/19/2006
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I'm confused..My best friend's friend has 2 children, one is 4 and the other is 7 months old..They are the most beautiful babies..Their mom on the other hand is really bad on drugs and the father is only there when he sees a chance to hurt their mom emotionly or when it is convientient for him..I just had a miscarriage and I despretly want a child..I know it would take awhile to adopt this baby, but I hate thinking of it never seeing its older sister again..I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do..The mother won't just sign him over cause she said she is afraid her family will disown her..She offered to give him up when he was born for a bottle of pills to a couple who can't have kids, but I guess her family talked her out of it..What do you think I should do? You can email me at rogistrixie@aol.com

Answer by x-Sharleyne-x
Submitted on 1/2/2007
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After reading all of the above comments I just wanna say that Adoption agencies don't just hand out babies, it ain't like you can just sign a few sheets and walk out with a baby. There are thorough checks on financial stability, mental stability and whether they agree your are living in an establishment fit for raising a child in. At 14 you have no idea really about looking after a baby, you still need looking after yourself. I think highly of the young girls that get pregnant and raise their child well and give them as much as they possibly need but planning on adopting, thats as bad as trying to conceive at 14, its mad. I was 15 when i got pregnant and I was nowhere near ready to raise a child, i enjoyed going out with my mates and boyfriend too much. Take advice from someone with experience. You don't want a baby yet. My baby girl sadly died in a car crash wen she was 3 weeks and 2 days old but nevertheless those weeks proved to be the hardest of my life. Enjoy your childhood and freedom, just have fun and there will be time for babies in the future. Thanks to whoever read all of this. Sharleyne xx

Answer by Gee
Submitted on 1/21/2007
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http://www.myshoppingonline.com/LegalKits/adoption.htm Above is a link to getting a do it yourself adoption kit. Yes, adoption is very special and serious. I am a mother of three, 22 who just recently graduated from college, 16 and 10. I am now wanting to give my love and secure home, to a child that is in desperate need of one. If you are going through a private adoption, one does not need to have a lawyer, which saves you thousands to spend on your new child instead. I have a home study, work with and cleared by the state I live in, to work with disable children and adults. I know exactly what I am getting myself into. Hope this helps those who are interested and I wish you all the best.

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Question by Tyra
Submitted on 8/30/2003
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i need adoption papers for a new born baby so i can take her home with me and be able to put here in mt name.

Answer by Reality Check
Submitted on 9/24/2003
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shes not your to own.

Answer by lotty
Submitted on 9/30/2003
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i think that this is a very good question and that if a person wants to look after someone elses child that is so kind hearted of them

Answer by dave
Submitted on 10/29/2003
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hey, where can I find some adoption papers? is there anywhere on the net I could just print them out? or do I have to go somewhere?

Answer by haylie
Submitted on 11/9/2003
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Hey,can i get adoption papers on the net, or do i have to go get em somewhere?

Answer by Rob
Submitted on 11/30/2003
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I think u just have to go to a lawyer because i've been looking around for a week now and i cant find any thing on the net. good luck.

Answer by Laura
Submitted on 12/1/2003
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I cant seem to find or be able to print adoption papers either. My mother would like to adopt my adult girlfriend. My mother has joked about her sending adoption papers when she spent the night as a little girl. We are now 33. Unfortunally she has lost her parents. That would make a great Christmas gift to he to be part of my family.. Even if the dont look real.. Please let me know. Would love to make her smile...

Answer by mandy
Submitted on 12/25/2003
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dude man, i am looking for the same thing. my aunt n' uncle just adore my children, and they don't have any grandchildren of their own so I'm looking for some papers to say that I'veadopted them as grandparents for my children

Answer by michaela
Submitted on 1/2/2004
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hi i am looking for some adoption forms as my mate's mum wishes to adopt me as i have just lost my folks and have no where to live except my boyfriends but they cant put me up coz they think we do something when we are only 15 and so my mates mum said she will so i desperatly need some

Answer by Big Joe
Submitted on 1/18/2004
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You like big johns i do

Answer by ShAdOw BaBy
Submitted on 1/24/2004
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I'm 14 years old and am trying to find adoption papers that i can just print off the internet and have filled out... is there any website that i can do that on? Please email me at southern_breed1990@yahoo.com... plz...

Answer by kel86
Submitted on 2/3/2004
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Destiny

Answer by Kiel420
Submitted on 2/9/2004
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I am 16 and i also am looking for adoption papers that i could just print off Kieltic1niner@hotmail.com

Answer by Chelsea
Submitted on 3/2/2004
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I found a site for printable adoption papers...its http://nationalcourtdocuments.com/prod.html

Answer by jeni
Submitted on 3/10/2004
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this is cool

Answer by VICTORIA
Submitted on 8/10/2004
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I'M 19, AND I WANT MY FRIENDS BABY, SHE IS ALSO 19, BUT SHE IS NOT READY FOR KIDS, SO HE WOULD BE BETTER OFF WITH ME, HIS MOTHER ALWAYS PONS HIM OFF TO PEOPLE ALL THE TIME. I HAVE HIM ALL THE TIME, AND HE IS THE BEST BABY IN THE WORLD, I DONT KNOW WHY SHE WOULDNT WANT HIM.

Answer by tlove
Submitted on 3/28/2004
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I am trying to get adopted my my aunt and uncle who I have been living with since I was a month old I am 15 now and I want to be adopted by them so does anyone know where i can find printable adoption papers. the site above didnt work. email me at: brownprincess106@aol.com, Please!!!!!!!!!!! Im desperate

Answer by Hailey
Submitted on 4/18/2004
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I want to get adopted my mom hates me Im 12!

Answer by sara
Submitted on 4/28/2004
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nice

Answer by lissa
Submitted on 6/11/2004
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my friend hates living with her step-dad and mother, and can't live with her father because he works too much. she keeps asking everyone to adopt her, an at first i thought it was a joke but now she asks ALL THE TIME!! is there something she can do, or something i can tell her to do?

Answer by jenny
Submitted on 7/5/2004
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i love to a adopt a baby but i am still in school at the moment i am only 14 but i will wait to have my own kids when i am 20 yrs old

Answer by caity
Submitted on 7/6/2004
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I'm 14 and i really want a baby but I'm to scared to have one dose anyone no how old have to be to adopt one

Answer by Your's Truly
Submitted on 7/12/2004
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I would like to have a baby of my own to have and love as my own. Where is a good place to get the adoption papers for the baby?

Answer by Stephanie
Submitted on 9/10/2004
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why is it every time guys get their girls pregnant they get scared and move away? if they don't want their girls pregnant then protect buddy,protect...

Answer by Schoena J
Submitted on 11/30/2004
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I am 14, And my Mother is Crazy, for real, Im looking fir Printable Adoption paper's too

Answer by mishy
Submitted on 12/1/2004
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that website doesn't work

Answer by ice
Submitted on 12/11/2004
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It is so nice of a person to take care of a baby even if it is not their's.

Answer by kell
Submitted on 12/13/2004
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ok i just want to know when i can strat adoptin i just want to know

Answer by JESSICA
Submitted on 12/19/2004
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I want to play a mean trick on my kid brother, i want to pretend he is adopted. I know it's not very nice but neither is he. if anyone finds adoption papers that you can print off, even if they have sample printed all over them, tell me.

Answer by SunShyn
Submitted on 1/6/2005
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My sister is wanting to adopt a 3 month old little boy. I was doing some research to see if I could get some adoption papers for her and I came across this site. I don't know how relyable it is, but I'm willing to to do this. It's a Do-It-Yourself adoption. http://www.myshoppingonline.com/LegalKits/adoption.htm

Answer by Emilee
Submitted on 1/10/2005
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here is a website for adoption papers that you can print out for free!!! http://www.pubs2000.com/adopt_papers.htm

Answer by Samantha
Submitted on 1/12/2005
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Okay to the girl who wants a baby when she's 14.....YOUR FREAKIN CRAZY!!! I'm 15 and I have 6 little baby brothers TRUST ME! your too young to be worrying about having a kid! Your too immature to take care of one...no offense...you might think that you can but odds are that you won't be able to....( this is to Caity)

Answer by kim
Submitted on 1/21/2005
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i agree, why would you want a child when you are a child..have fun while you can. i am about to graduate from college and i still do not think i am ready for children yet.

Answer by LonelyAngel
Submitted on 2/13/2005
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I'll be 15 in 5 days.. and i'm looking for printable adoption papers too... if any of you teens want to talk to me about it, e-mail me at AngelofDarknessA30@yahoo.com ... I'm going thru a lot here at home with my parents, and just can't take it anymore... u guys have no idea... but if anyone needs to talk... e-mail me... and if anyone actually finds printable adoption papers, let me know..thanx guys, love u all...

Answer by kandi armstead
Submitted on 3/28/2005
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i thing that if someone is 13and want to adopt can they just whant kid to suport,

Answer by Amber
Submitted on 4/11/2005
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Hi my name is Amber and i will like a baby to spaend my life with i'm14 but i love kids i babysit and i love kids so much