My b/f and I have been together for 5 years. We have had an...

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Question by CassieCAT
Submitted on 6/16/2004
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My b/f and I have been together for 5 years. We have had an open relationship for a while now, we've seen other people but only committed to each other. I have for sometime had feelings for a close friend of mine whom I am going to visit over the summer. My b/f is aware of my feelings and has said that he would be o.k. with any poly-relationship that may come of my friend and I as long as it doesn't take away from the time we have for each other... (He works out of town so weekends are all that we normally have) Before divulging my feelings to said friend I made him aware of mine and my b/f's relationship. Once he seemed to have a healthy understanding of how we work I opened up to him and told him how I felt. So at this point I have discussed the idea/ issue with both parties but we should all get together and put our feelings on the table for all to see at once. This idea however easy it is to say, is much more difficult to do. Everyone feels a little uncomfortable about divulging their feelings to whom-ever in front of whom-ever. Any suggestions on how to make this part easier would be much appreciated as I really hope that we can make things work. Thanks in advance for any suggestions or ideas....

Answer by 2pac
Submitted on 7/4/2004
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well i got a lot to say first of sit with you b/f and set some rules and bounderies and guidlines things that you want to keep sacred between you to only that any one else you bring into the relationship cant have,for example here is a rule if a male comeinto your relationship and the three of you have sex or the two of you he is never allowed to cum in side you. that is for you b/f only that is like gives you two something that only you share. another one i like is no sex unless all three are there no secret sex., you need to set these rules up with you b/f then invite the prospetive person over and explain your new to this and you want to try it but you have these rules, bla bla bla, then make that person feel special expline to he/she that of all the people they could do this with you choice them. then explain that no matter what the rules some how some way they may break or bend but if this happens its ok just be truth ful because if you break a rule and keep it a secret then your cheating. start slow check your feelings as time passes then revise your rules.

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