I share a home with my dear friend who has been my lover for...

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Question by elenita
Submitted on 12/30/2003
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I share a home with my dear friend who has been my lover for over 6 years. We have communicated and defined our relationship as one that is loving and open to other experiences as needed. We do not consider ourselves a couple. We have been committed to respecting and loving each other unconditionally. She has been open, supportive and non-threatened by my other experiences. But, I am not as supportive. I get jealous and uncomfortable any time I feel like she is interested in somebody else. I understand that Jealousy is about ME and my feelings of insecurity, lack of confidence, etc... It's my problem. But, I'm feeling so very challenged when trying to overcome my feelings of Jealousy. I've decided to stop sleeping with her because I feel it's the only way to stop the Jealousy. I don't want to play that part in any relationship. I love her so much and miss her so much, but I think it's best for now and possibly forever (depends on my ability to heal my insecurities). I want to continue living with her because she is my soul mate and has become such a big part of my life. But, I'm wondering if I can make that work while I work on myself. I don't want her to live any place with anyone that would interfere with her normal and natural vibrations. Any advice, suggestions, feedback, guidelines, counseling... would be greatly appreciated.

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Answer by CareBear
Submitted on 4/7/2004
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It's not an answer, but something to ponder. The purpose of a good relationship is fulfillment. What you partner needs to feel fulfilled may be totally different from your needs. The big question is Are YOU happy? Is the pain worth the prize? Just a thought...

Answer by abdulkadir
Submitted on 5/6/2004
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hello kadir

Answer by i think
Submitted on 1/17/2005
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you should just enjoy each nailing and be grateful she lets you nail others from time to time, remember it is her cooter and she can share it with whomever, whenever.

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